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Your body language may shape who you are

So I want to start by offering you a free no-tech life hack, and all it requires of you is this: that you change your posture for two minutes. Voice Reading
But before I give it away, I want to ask you to right now do a little audit of your body and what you're doing with your body. Voice Reading
So how many of you are sort of making yourselves smaller? Maybe you're hunching, crossing your legs, maybe wrapping your ankles. Voice Reading
Sometimes we hold onto our arms like this. Voice Reading
Sometimes we spread out. I see you. Voice Reading
So I want you to pay attention to what you're doing right now. Voice Reading
We're going to come back to that in a few minutes, and I'm hoping that if you learn to tweak this a little bit, it could significantly change the way your life unfolds. Voice Reading
So, we're really fascinated with body language, and we're particularly interested in other people's body language. Voice Reading
You know, we're interested in, like, you know ? (Laughter) ? an awkward interaction, or a smile, or a contemptuous glance, or maybe a very awkward wink, or maybe even something like a handshake. Voice Reading
Narrator: Here they are arriving at Number 10. Voice Reading
This lucky policeman gets to shake hands with the President of the United States. Voice Reading
Here comes the Prime Minister -- No. Voice Reading
Amy Cuddy: So a handshake, or the lack of a handshake, can have us talking for weeks and weeks and weeks. Voice Reading
Even the BBC and The New York Times. Voice Reading
So obviously when we think about nonverbal behavior, or body language -- but we call it nonverbals as social scientists -- it's language, so we think about communication. Voice Reading
When we think about communication, we think about interactions. Voice Reading
So what is your body language communicating to me? What's mine communicating to you? Voice Reading
And there's a lot of reason to believe that this is a valid way to look at this. Voice Reading
So social scientists have spent a lot of time looking at the effects of our body language, or other people's body language, on judgments. Voice Reading
And we make sweeping judgments and inferences from body language. Voice Reading
And those judgments can predict really meaningful life outcomes like who we hire or promote, who we ask out on a date. Voice Reading
For example, Nalini Ambady, a researcher at Tufts University, shows that when people watch 30-second soundless clips of real physician-patient interactions, their judgments of the physician's niceness predict whether or not that physician will be sued. Voice Reading
So it doesn't have to do so much with whether or not that physician was incompetent, but do we like that person and how they interacted? Even more dramatic, Alex Todorov at Princeton has shown us that judgments of political candidates' faces in just one second predict 70 percent of U.S. Senate and gubernatorial race outcomes, and even, let's go digital, emoticons used well in online negotiations can lead you to claim more value from that negotiation. Voice Reading
If you use them poorly, bad idea. Right? Voice Reading

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