I am actually doing this.'" So that's what I did.
Five years in grad school, a few years, you know, I'm at Northwestern, I moved to Harvard, I'm at Harvard, I'm not really thinking about it anymore, but for a long time I had been thinking, "Not supposed to be here."
So at the end of my first year at Harvard, a student who had not talked in class the entire semester, who I had said, "Look, you've gotta participate or else you're going to fail," came into my office.
I really didn't know her at all.
She came in totally defeated, and she said, "I'm not supposed to be here." And that was the moment for me.
Because two things happened.
One was that I realized, oh my gosh, I don't feel like that anymore.
I don't feel that anymore, but she does, and I get that feeling.
And the second was, she is supposed to be here! Like, she can fake it, she can become it.
So I was like, "Yes, you are! You are supposed to be here! And tomorrow you're going to fake it, you're going to make yourself powerful, and, you know --